Comments on: The patter of tiny feet http://www.uborka.nu/rise/2007/06/the-patter-of-tiny-feet/ Raising Bernard Fri, 11 Nov 2011 10:54:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: sue http://www.uborka.nu/rise/2007/06/the-patter-of-tiny-feet/comment-page-1/#comment-1443 sue Mon, 25 Jun 2007 13:20:00 +0000 http://www.uborka.nu/rise/2007/06/the-patter-of-tiny-feet/#comment-1443 <p>What can I say ? I have three and would have loved to have more. Your ability to love simply expands and the older children are more than glad to help out.</p> <p>Except for the shitty diapers. That is where the buck stops- at me.</p> What can I say ? I have three and would have loved to have more. Your ability to love simply expands and the older children are more than glad to help out.

Except for the shitty diapers. That is where the buck stops- at me.

]]> By: Jane http://www.uborka.nu/rise/2007/06/the-patter-of-tiny-feet/comment-page-1/#comment-1436 Jane Fri, 22 Jun 2007 09:31:13 +0000 http://www.uborka.nu/rise/2007/06/the-patter-of-tiny-feet/#comment-1436 <p>My husband and I have recently gone through this whole discussion ourselves and come to the same conclusion, so I think I understand something of your thoughts. As an only child myself I was always happy enough. It is also worth pointing out that although there are lots of people very happy to have siblings there are an equal number who DON'T get on and fervently wish that they weren't around. My boss is one example, she is 50 and never sees or speaks to her brother, he doesn't help with their elderly mother or even remember birthdays. They never fell out, or even played together much as kids, they just didn't click. So, even if a brother or sister was present there is no guarantee whatsoever that they would get on and be friends. However, I still get really sick of people asking me when No. 2 is planned and then looking horrified when I say it won't! I can recommend reading You and Your Only Child by Patricia Nachman - I found it really supportive when thinking around the issue.</p> My husband and I have recently gone through this whole discussion ourselves and come to the same conclusion, so I think I understand something of your thoughts. As an only child myself I was always happy enough. It is also worth pointing out that although there are lots of people very happy to have siblings there are an equal number who DON’T get on and fervently wish that they weren’t around. My boss is one example, she is 50 and never sees or speaks to her brother, he doesn’t help with their elderly mother or even remember birthdays. They never fell out, or even played together much as kids, they just didn’t click. So, even if a brother or sister was present there is no guarantee whatsoever that they would get on and be friends. However, I still get really sick of people asking me when No. 2 is planned and then looking horrified when I say it won’t! I can recommend reading You and Your Only Child by Patricia Nachman – I found it really supportive when thinking around the issue.

]]> By: Karen http://www.uborka.nu/rise/2007/06/the-patter-of-tiny-feet/comment-page-1/#comment-1435 Karen Wed, 20 Jun 2007 08:34:56 +0000 http://www.uborka.nu/rise/2007/06/the-patter-of-tiny-feet/#comment-1435 <p>You don't need to tell me about the joy of having a brother, I have exactly the same experience and I'd say that he's one of the most important people in my life. But that doesn't mean Bernard can't have a whole and meaningful existence without one.</p> You don’t need to tell me about the joy of having a brother, I have exactly the same experience and I’d say that he’s one of the most important people in my life. But that doesn’t mean Bernard can’t have a whole and meaningful existence without one.

]]> By: Hazy http://www.uborka.nu/rise/2007/06/the-patter-of-tiny-feet/comment-page-1/#comment-1434 Hazy Tue, 19 Jun 2007 22:15:23 +0000 http://www.uborka.nu/rise/2007/06/the-patter-of-tiny-feet/#comment-1434 <p>All the money, attention, spoiling and parental love in the word couldn't make up for the joy of having my brother. I love knowing that whatever happens, wherever we are (and I should point out that we live in different countries) he's there for me and I'm there for him. We still laugh hysterically about moments we shared growing up and we still talk to each other in silly accents just like we did 30 years ago. I am very thankful not to be an only child. </p> <p>However, having said that, you are quite right to do what you feel is right for you.</p> All the money, attention, spoiling and parental love in the word couldn’t make up for the joy of having my brother. I love knowing that whatever happens, wherever we are (and I should point out that we live in different countries) he’s there for me and I’m there for him. We still laugh hysterically about moments we shared growing up and we still talk to each other in silly accents just like we did 30 years ago. I am very thankful not to be an only child.

However, having said that, you are quite right to do what you feel is right for you.

]]> By: Krissa http://www.uborka.nu/rise/2007/06/the-patter-of-tiny-feet/comment-page-1/#comment-1433 Krissa Tue, 19 Jun 2007 16:31:43 +0000 http://www.uborka.nu/rise/2007/06/the-patter-of-tiny-feet/#comment-1433 <p>I'm with you. Everyone says I will change my mind once I've had the first (whenever that is) and I'm glad to see that you still feel like one is right for you. </p> <p>And let me tell you, I am essentially an only child (two brothers 15 and 16 years older who didn't live abroad with us don't count for the purpose of this point) and I can say honestly, I adored it. I adored the simple dynamic between my parents and myself, the self-sufficiency in entertaining myself, and okay - the not having to share everything! I grew up moving every three years and I still wouldn't trade it. I loved it.</p> I’m with you. Everyone says I will change my mind once I’ve had the first (whenever that is) and I’m glad to see that you still feel like one is right for you.

And let me tell you, I am essentially an only child (two brothers 15 and 16 years older who didn’t live abroad with us don’t count for the purpose of this point) and I can say honestly, I adored it. I adored the simple dynamic between my parents and myself, the self-sufficiency in entertaining myself, and okay – the not having to share everything! I grew up moving every three years and I still wouldn’t trade it. I loved it.

]]> By: Gordon http://www.uborka.nu/rise/2007/06/the-patter-of-tiny-feet/comment-page-1/#comment-1432 Gordon Tue, 19 Jun 2007 15:42:10 +0000 http://www.uborka.nu/rise/2007/06/the-patter-of-tiny-feet/#comment-1432 <p>Bernard is going to be spoiled.</p> <p>That sounds like a bad thing, hang on and I'll rephrase... Bernard is going to be loved!</p> <p>I can't contemplate having one child, the thought of two ... nope doesn't even register. I think, like that whole 'love' thing, you "just know" so if 2 ain't right for you, then 2 ain't right for you!</p> <p>Lucky Bernard I say!</p> Bernard is going to be spoiled.

That sounds like a bad thing, hang on and I’ll rephrase… Bernard is going to be loved!

I can’t contemplate having one child, the thought of two … nope doesn’t even register. I think, like that whole ‘love’ thing, you “just know” so if 2 ain’t right for you, then 2 ain’t right for you!

Lucky Bernard I say!

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